so i have been thinking a lot about this F O M O thing. if you aren’t familiar with that acronym, it stands for: Fear Of Missing Out.

F O M O is no joke. it doesn’t mess around. and it is stealing joy and lives left and right. especially in this digital age, where everyone is sharing pretty squares of their lives and we can consume it all day long. filters. curation. et cetera. and while there is nothing wrong with sharing the beauty in life – inspiring – aspiring…caveat emptor. beware of the trap of comparison. beware of F O M O.

i recently read a passage from brené brown (#risingstrong) and it summed up the danger of F O M O perfectly. i was going to ramble and muse, but instead, i will let brené do the talking:

DON’T LET FOMO KILL YOUR MOJO. the “fear of missing out” is what happens when scarcity slams into shame. FOMO lures us out of our integrity with whispers about what we could or should be doing. FOMO’s favorite weapon is comparison. it kills gratitude and replaces it with “not enough”. we answer FOMO’s call by saying YES when we mean NO. we abandon our path and our boundaries and those precious adventures that hold meaning for us so we can prove that we aren’t missing out.

BUT WE ARE. we’re missing out on our own lives.every time we say YES because we are afraid, we say NO to something. that something may be a big dream or a short nap. we need both. courage to stay our course and gratitude for our path will keep us grounded and guide us home.

so on this lovely friday and heading into the weekend, say NO so you can say YES to the things that matter. don’t let comparison steal your joy. let us work for God and not for man. let us seek the approval of the Most High. let us find rest in Him. let us find joy in the beautiful lives He has laid before us.




le quotidien


well, bonjour! i hope this week is treating you well. we are just living it up and doing all the things. good stuff, for sure. i will be back tomorrow to share a few more words and have a proper blog post.

until then, a quick instantané. a smattering of life in squares and rectangles.









célébrer trente-deux



yesterday was a splendid day indeed. we did celebratory bookends, if you will. starting things off with family breakfast at tea & toast co at desoto central market. i love that spot. it’s the best for a quick bite, hanging with friends, casual conversation, and even, getting some work done. we nibbled on tasty toasts and sipped london fogs (earl gray lattes with honey).

downtown phoenix is kind of killing it right now. there are so many rad spots for food and fun. and the coffee culture is superb. so before heading home for the rest of the day, we popped across the street to grab coffee for the road at futuro.




oh futuro, you are really something. it is minimalism palooza. and while i am not really into the whole all white walls – pegged table – teeny chairs – all cement – one item per room vibe in my own home, i LOVE seeing people and shops and locations that are doing it well. and futuro is doing it well. they are all about simplicity. form and function. basics. the coffee menu is small and perfect. and the ambiance is just right.

while i waited for our tónicos (espresso with fever tree tonic over ice) to be brewed and poured, i wandered around and took in the art. local rockstar josh brizuela is featured on the walls and he makes for a fantastic gallery.

truly, i am certain that i’m in no way cool enough to just hang in this space, but i can muddle my way through a few minutes. and the quick stop is more than worth it. the coffee NEVER disappoints. especially the T Ó N I C O. woah woah woah.




with bellies full of toast and plenty of caffeine, we resumed our normal day. work and play and such. but then came the other bookend – a dinner date with my man.

we dropped off the kiddos in the evening and popped over to our favorite, citizen public house. our last date night at this spot was valentine’s day so it was definitely time. and boy oh boy was it perfect. i sipped brut rosé and we feasted on fondue and hush puppies and a duck burger with fries. we took our time and soaked it all in.

i felt so celebrated yesterday. kind words from friends and family. thoughtful presents. fun meals. good music. smiles and hugs and smooches and laughter. all the best birthday things. 32 is looking mighty fine so far. and i have big plans for this year. it’s gonna be good, i can just feel it.

instantanés de la vie




another week has flown by. i don’t want to say “breezed by” because last week wasn’t exactly an easy-breezy walk in the park. it was busy. full. all the thoughts – plans – ideas – decisions. and then there was elinor. elinor was a piece of work last week. she was emotional and tough. disobedient. testing limits. disrespectful. trying my patience at every turn. full of attitude and defiance. i lost track of all the NOs that i spoke. and i lost track of all the prayers i prayed. for patience. for mercy and grace. for discernment. this parenting gig is the most taxing and most rewarding thing. God uses the kids (in good and bad) to teach and refine me. truly, He is disciplining me right alongside my discipline of them. it’s good for me. so good. but man, sometimes it just zaps my brain. last week was a brain-zapper. elinor’s antics on top of the hustle of the week really added up. ben and i were down for the count come friday.


see that face? so delightful and expressive and sassy. she’s so darn smart. and curious. and determined. and crafty. but goodness gracious, she’s adorable. that button nose and sprightly curls and smirk. praise God for the sweetness and beauty that he created in her to balance out her spice.

and remind me to share a humdinger of a story with you sometime soon. ben happens to think that it was my finest parenting moment yet. and i am sure it will live on in infamy…





so yeah, the week was kind of nuts at times, but the week was also FILLED with wonderful moments. meals with friends and family. playtime at home. conversation and libations and jazz after the kids were asleep. cooking together. juicing together. sipping tea. morning miles. dance parties with elinor. hearty hugs and slobbery kisses from ridley. READING!!!

you guys, i have two books that i am in the middle of right now and it’s awesome. one fiction thriller and one business/change leadership theory book) it has been far two long since i have been engrossed in my reads like this and actually carved out downtime to read them. i am the worst at that. constantly starting books and then shelving them for months and months. i guess the days just get away from me. and usually by late in the day, if i pick up a book before bed instead of keeping my brain engaged in conversation, i nod off. but not this summer. i am a reading machine! and i am realizing how much i have missed it for the past months/years.




but praise God for the weekend. for slow saturdays. productive and reenergizing. and for sabbath. around here, sundays are for long runs, couples yoga, simple pleasures, worship, the arts and leisure section of the NYT, frothy coffee, bread baking, jazz on vinyl, and hearty meals with kith and kin. aaaaaahhhhhh… this sunday was perfect. just what we needed to close the week and start anew.

i am excited to have monday. to have a fresh start. i am hoping to make the most of this new week. to be present. and maybe redirect a few of the NOs that i have been speaking toward some of the time-wasters in my life that are cluttering things or not bringing joy or distracting me from the things that truly matter. i love being productive and engaged but being busy and “hustling” is stupid. and gosh to we sensationalize that stuff, don’t we? and i am over it. rest is the new hustle.

this week, i am getting back to basics. i am going to let myself be spoiled by my savior. i am going to be still and know that He is God. i am going to walk by the quiet waters. i am going to find rest and satisfaction in Him, knowing that i am is child and that is enough. that is everything.

here’s to enjoying heavenly pleasures! happy monday!

back to school bag drive to benefit arizona foster kids





would you look at these cuties? school prep is in full swing (can’t believe it) and as such, i wanted to share a fab opportunity for you to grab some bags for back-to-school AND benefit arizona foster kids in the process.

my SIL (rachel schroeder) is hosting a THIRTY-ONE bag drive TOMORROW 7/16 and you are invited to shop her party with a purpose! arizona has SO many kids in foster care, and their needs are overwhelming. as august approaches, we have an opportunity to help in a tangible way. one thing we can EASILY help with is bags, lunch boxes, and school supplies. many of these children don’t even have a backpack to take to school, and they are issued trash bags for their belongings.

rachel is partnering with Christian Family Care and the goal is to get a pile of new backpacks & lunch boxes that can be delivered to CFC, along with some school supplies. july’s customer special is perfect for this bag drive, because for every $35 you spend, you can get a thermal tote (lunch bag) for just $10!

you can shop online by selecting the BACK TO SCHOOL BAG DRIVE party on rachel’s site. if you want to drop by her place, you are welcome to attend the real-deal-in-person party. and if you have questions about how it all works or just want to chat with rachel, give her a ring! rachel schroeder: 480.286.5586

>>> SHOP HERE <<<